I want to say this first. Kids listen!
It's not your fault!
I know first hand what it feels like to be a child of Divorce because my parents separated when I was only 9yrs old.
I thought I had the perfect Family, but sadly in a moment, my world was shattered into a thousand pieces.
I was very angry at the world and felt like I was the only child going through this.
I felt like I had no-one to talk to about it.
I know now I made the wrong decision of not talking to anyone, but how was I to know.
Keeping my frustrations all locked up inside only led to further problems down the track, with both relationships and drugs.
Trust me, talking to someone or anyone you trust is better than saying nothing at all.
It's OK to be sad and cry when you feel the need.
You are allowed to feel hurt and angry, it's your family too so you would feel sad at this time.
Please don't bottle your feelings up inside and say nothing to your Mum or Dad. Your feelings are just as important as your parents, you must know this.
Or sometimes you may be close to another family member. I had a wonderful Aunty who I spoke to many times about how I was feeling, and she was very supportive right through my teens years.
Another idea is to get a Journal Book and write down how you feel each day if that helps.
Write how you feel, and also how you plan to take baby steps to change this.
Goal setting is a wonderful thing and can make you feel like you are now accomplishing things for YOUR life.
If you are finding it hard to talk to your parents right now maybe write them a letter first explaining how you feel. Be honest, they can handle it even if you think they can't.
So make sure you put yourself first and seek help. Remember you are not alone or the only one going through this.
I'd love to hear from you...
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like to chat, or if it's urgent please call the Kids Line number Ph:1800 55 1800
"Is It My Fault?" by Karla Lee is a compilation of four separate illustrated stories. Each full-color illustrated story is written for children from four to twelve years of age and deals with various problems that children may face when their parents go through a divorce.
Daddy, Please Don’t Go! by Karla Lee is written for a child whose father has left the family to live in another location. This full-color illustrated story is 19 pages in length.
Mummy, Please Don’t Go! by Karla Lee is written for a child whose mother has left the family to live in another location. This full-color illustrated story is 19 pages in length.
He’s My Friend, Not My Daddy by Karla Lee is written for a child whose mother has remarried. This full-color illustrated story is 16 pages in length and is for children from four to twelve years of age.
She’s My Friend, Not My Mummy by Karla Lee is written for a child whose father has remarried. This full-color illustrated story is 16 pages in length and is for children from four to twelve years of age.
If you wish to purchase this book please click on the image above to head to Karla Lee's online store.
Counselling Puppet Dolls.
Karla Lee has designed some hand puppets that you can use to help your child resolve the divorce issues that are affecting him or her.
Four puppet dolls are currently available: Mummy, Daddy, Faith, and Peter.
Each of the character dolls is soft and cuddly and can be machine or hand washed.
To order your hand puppets, visit Karla Lee’s online store by clicking on the puppet dolls image.